Tell children the truth.  Don’t try to pretend the event has not occurred or that it is not serious. Children are smart and pick up on adults’ fears and anxieties without anyone saying a word.  Their misconceptions often leave them very confused and they will be more worried if they think you are too afraid to tell them what is happening.  Fantasized danger can be as real and threatening as actual danger to them.  Be patient and do not belittle the fears, but listen with understanding, love and factual explanations.

Keep explanations appropriate for the child's age.   Elementary school-age children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that the daily structures of their lives will not change.  Upper middle school and high school-age students will have more questions, and may have strong and various opinions about the causes of violence or inadequate preparation in schools and society.  They will be more committed to doing something to help the victims and the affected community.  Encourage all children to speak about their thoughts and feelings.  Be a good listener!

Have the family spend more time together.  Your physical presence will be reassuring and provide the opportunity to look for any reactions.  "We are all together and nothing has happened to us".  Explain that when people know what to do and practice in advance, everyone can handle emergencies better.  That’s why you created a Family Emergency Preparedness Plan together.

It is very important that you make a deliberate effort to get back to a routine. Engaging in "normal" activities of life, i.e., eating, sleeping, chores, school and work, provides stability at a time when events make life seem very confusing.  You should indicate to your child that you are maintaining control.  You should be understanding but firm and supportive when making decisions for your child.  If the family is evacuated, there will be a delay in a return to normal.  Planned activities in such centers will increase the morale of all.  Try to treat shelter-at-home or evacuation as a positive thing or even a temporary adventure!